Showing posts with label homeless. Show all posts
Showing posts with label homeless. Show all posts

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Please Read!!!


I first posted this as a Facebook Note on July 12 and was originally going to immediately post it here as well.  However, a combination of trouble with my Internet connection and having to tend to other things when life began to march on made it so that I'm just now finishing posting it here.  Please share it in hopes that Russell might be located.  If you know anything, please send me a message via Facebook.  Thanks!

If anybody knows the whereabouts of Russell T. Hartsaw, please let me know.

I've made some notes about him that I'm going to put down here.

I believe that the problem began when he decided to switch health care providers.

Details Of The Switch

Last year, he decided to switch health care providers. He really liked his doctor, but he didn't care for the hospital connected with him, so, when this company came out of nowhere promising better hospital care and a lot of other things, Russell made the decision to go with them. They weren't just basic medical care, but they would also provide dental care, eye care, psychiatric care (if needed), and had their own assisted living program should Russell get to the place where he couldn't live alone. They also had available free lunch throughout the week, social activities, and transportation to and from. A visiting nurse would come to his apartment at least a couple of times per week and would even help him with his shopping so that he could make the best choices for his diet.

However, Russell ended up having several health issues under their care. He thought that he was just getting older at first--until he was hearing the same thing from some of the others who had switched.

Could simply be circumstantial evidence, but he began wondering if, perhaps, this service might be part of a plan to decrease the population of older people living in debt-ridden California.

I don't want to lay out all of his life here, as Russell is a very private person about some things, but I know that he ended up (supposedly) having a nervous breakdown and spending some time in a hospital late last year, and he was telling me that he might have to go there again.

However, I haven't been able to find out anything for quite some time other than he was (initially) no longer at home and (sometime after that) no longer living at his apartment.

Incarcerated?

Originally, I posted that I was trying to find the whereabouts of Russell in a thread form, and one person made the comment that he might have gone back to prison.

My response was that he had stayed clean since getting out on parole back in May of 2003 and had been a model prisoner for many years before that.

Let me note here that Russell had never been sent to prison for any violent sort of crimes.  He started out in his street youth days doing survival crimes such as hustling and petty theft.  Later, he would rob banks--but never with a weapon.  He would simply hand the teller a note saying to hand over all of the money.

There came a time when he became more comfortable with the prison routine than in living on the outside.  When the outside got to be too bewildering to him, he would actually go through the motions of robbing a bank just to be caught and sent back.

However, during his last time in prison, he got to thinking of a better future for himself and decided that he wasn't going to go that route again.  One thing that helped him was getting a college degree (Bachelor's in Criminal Justice) along with teaching adult education classes on the inside and becoming a very popular teacher, as his delivery was entertaining and engaging.

Reaching Out To Street Youth

For his parole, he was placed in the city of San Diego, and it was during that time that he noticed the growing population of street youth in the area.  Looking at them, he saw a younger version of himself, and he didn't want these kids to have to go through what he'd gone through before having a possible chance of turning their lives around.

While saying on one hand that prison had been an enjoyable learning experience for him, Russell didn't want to think of these young people ending up going there.

Russell felt safe in prison--in fact, the outside life still bewilders him a lot even to this very day--but he has always realized that there had to be more than that in the future of these kids, and he was determined to get them there.

While he was able to find a handful of (at least, fairly) enthusiastic volunteers to help him in his mission of reaching out to the local street youth, he was disappointed, frustrated, and even angry that he was unable to gather up many more volunteers in this large city.

Thus, in time, he went online and Invisible Youth Network was born.

I met Russell online at a discussion site called Duno on January 15, 2007 when he was wanting people to visit his website.  Upon seeing his website, I realized that he was a really amazing person and that we were on the same page re: a lot of issues, so I sent him a message asking him if he would like to e-mail back-and-forth.

One of my 2007 Resolutions was to put together a kind of online dream team of people who were interested in addressing the issue of various parts of our society falling through the cracks without a safety net, and I knew right off that Russell would be a major asset to have on such a dream team.

In a decision we made having nothing to do with romance, Russell and I have been "married" since February 19 of that same year.  That is, we decided to have an online marriage of our dreams, and Russell even designed a marriage certificate to go with it.

Over time, we have even considered the possibility that our friendship might even end up including an actual marriage (romantic).  However, as much as I love Russell as a person and always will (not to mention being very attracted to him both physically and emotionally), I've decided that going this route might ruin our friendship, because we would probably end up having frequent and serious arguments.  He and I come from two very different worlds, and I've come to realize that this would, more likely than not, make a marriage to each other either end in divorce (likely, a messy one) or else end in two people feeling trapped in a major mistake.  I think too much of both of us to put us through something like that.

Early in 2007, Russell shared his dream of an organization to help homeless and/or otherwise at-risk kids with me.  He had just launched one a few years before but had to give it up after suffering a series of strokes.

Due to both these strokes and having Crohn's Disease at a serious enough level that complications from it almost killed him a few years before (though his flare-ups are now more rare and less serious), Russell has been on disability with his only other sources of income being donating blood plasma (which he had to give up after his strokes) and getting tipped for giving lectures about life in prison to criminal justice students from time to time.

Around half of his income goes for rent with most of the rest going for groceries, haircuts, and other necessities.

Once in awhile, Russell will be good to himself and buy something for his apartment, go out to eat, get a new clothing item, etc.  He'll also occasionally buy one or more friends a gift.

However, most of what's left of Russell's monthly paycheck after making necessary payments from it has gone to helping the street kids.   He'd pass out gift cards to fast-food restaurants and phone cards so that they could call for assistance or even call home, if there were somebody home who would like a phone call from them.  He would also do things like order a pizza and sit around with them while they ate it and opened up to them about what had gotten them to where they were.

He knew that he could do only so much alone, which is why he saw the need for getting people organized to do street outreach on a greater scale.

Although Russell is frustrated that IYN couldn't have been even more widespread by now, he and I are both happy to report that there are some very enthusiastic chapters of it with the most active to date being the one in Fulton County, Ohio.

To find out more about IYN, please check out My Helping Hand Journal, which is the blog I've created to give my take on IYN and related matters:

http://mhhj.blogspot.com/

For right now, here are the most important issues to address:

  • Even with Russell missing, our mission needs to go on.  I hope that everybody reading this will think of a way to make life better for our invisible youth.  They aren't all out on the streets (though too many of them are after getting to the place that they, sadly, felt safer and more in control living this kind of life than they did living at home).  Some are still living at home in spite of the fact that they're having one or more of the following happening to them:  getting bullied at school while those who are supposed to be in charge are nodding and winking); getting abused at home (physically, emotionally, and/or sexually); are loved at home and popular at school but are part of a family who is having trouble making ends meet.  Some of them might even be homeless with their entire family living in with others, at a campground, at a shelter, or even in a vehicle).  Please do what you can to help, even if it's only letting others (who might be able to help) know about things like this.
  • Please help me to find Russell.  A lot of the operations of IYN are now up in the air and needing Russell to help sort things out.  He had been telling me that he was trying to pick out some people to carry on should he no longer be able to.  He has been aware that he isn't getting any younger and that he has health issues.  However, he didn't get this all finished before he disappeared.  I believe he's alive, but is, likely, in some sort of institution.  I can't seem to get any sort of information about him.  If you live in the San Diego area and/or know somebody who does, anything you can share with me would be very helpful.
Thank you so much for reading this!


To Russell:  There's a lighthouse in my heart, and its beaming out its searchlight in hopes of finding you soon......................................

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Posted To Craigslist

Below is what I posted to the general community of San Diego's Craigslist on Wednesday, May 18, 2011.  I'm reposting it here (copying and pasting) in order to share it even longer and with a greater readership.  I'm very concerned about Russell, and I'm not the only one.  As my message says, please get in touch with me on Facebook if you know anything and/or have any questions...

My name is Ainsley Jo Phillips, and I'm from Anderson, Indiana.

I met a very special and beautiful person from your city online on January 15, 2007. His name is Russell T. Hartsaw. If you don't actually know him by name, you might still remember seeing him around. More times than not, black is his favorite color to wear, and he looks like a shorter version of Harrison Ford.

Shortly after moving to San Diego in 2003, he learned how big the problem of children, teens, and young adults being homeless is in your area and set out to do his part to help. After several years of reaching out to these young people on his own and with the help of various friends, he founded Invisible Youth Network.

Below, find something I wrote about him and his mission on his 70th Birthday (this past Saturday, May 14). It has been copied and pasted from my IYN blog called My Helping Hand Journal.

Sadly, things have been pretty much on-hold as far as any official business going on at headquarters, because I can't find out where Russell is. As you will read, I don't believe that this is something that Russell liked or planned. I'm guessing that he has been moved to a medical or assisted living facility, but I can't find out where due to the Hippa Act. He, likely, no longer has a computer at this time. What brought him to this place in his life might even be some kind of unsavory agenda of certain others. When you read what I wrote, you'll have more of an idea re: what I'm talking about.

If you know Russell and his whereabouts, please get in touch with me by sending me a message at Facebook:

http://www.facebook.com/face.of.ainsleyjo

As I've written in my blog-entry, which I've copied and pasted below, I hope that you'll get involved in our mission.

Below are some links to IYN's website as Russell left it when he vanished (obviously, dated in places); my IYN blog; my personal blog-format website, AJville; and the blog-format website and Facebook group of one of our most active chapters, which is located in Fulton County, Ohio. Please help me to find Russell, and please read what I've written below to learn how you can help what he began...

http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/default.aspx

http://mhhj.blogspot.com/

http://ajville.blogspot.com/

http://www.fultoncountyiyn.com/

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=group_348348868466#!/home.php?sk=group_348348868466


About Russell On His 70th Birthday (posted on Saturday, May 14, 2011)

This is NOT how I had been planning on celebrating Russell's birthday. Hopefully, I'll soon be able to celebrate this very special milestone in his life (turning 70) the way I had planned to--with him online again.

If you live in the San Diego area and know something about Russell's whereabouts these days, please send me a message on Facebook. Here is a link to my profile page.

Let me explain. Russell was having some personal and health issues (as in being given some medicine that seemed to be having bad side-effects).

All at once, I began to hear the news that he had been taken somewhere else but nobody seemed to be at liberty to tell me just where.

I'm not going to go into a lot of details here, as I only have some limited information that Russell told me about such as getting the same medication that he had been taking for years through another (supposedly legitimate) source. He had also been prescribed some inappropriate medication (I believe, having to do with his blood-pressure) by the same place. He began to hear horror stories by other area seniors and got suspicious.

Anyway, I'm not going to say anymore here at this point, as having--and using--a small amount of information in a factual way can prove to do more harm than good.

There are people out there who have more experience and knowledge than I do, and, hopefully, at least some of the people reading this would fall under this category.

Please help if you know how!!! To anyone reading this, please keep Russell in your prayers!!!

Until he's able to get online once more (or is able to get in touch with somebody who can) and get things straightened out, the activities of IYN headquarters in San Diego have had to be put on hold.

However, any people who are part of various IYN chapters or those who want to get involved in our mission should keep on doing what you're doing or want to do.

In San Diego (and its surrounding area) alone, there are thousands of street youth, and they need to be helped!!!

First off, here's what they don't need:

1. They don't need to be rounded up and taken to juvenile hall (or something similar) and told that they will not be released until they give their real names and how to contact their parents and/or other responsible people in their hometowns. They have gone through a whole lot to get away from there, because they have reason to believe that what is back in their old lives is a bad environment. There are very few cases of kids just leaving home for the lark of it. They are generally leaving behind abusive situations, whether those situations are bullying at school that nobody seems to be able or willing to make stop or physical/verbal/emotional/sexual abuse going on right in their own homes.

2. They don't need the kind of boot-camp atmosphere that, unfortunately, seems to have become so common these days. Leave them right where they are before doing this kind of thing to them!

3. They don't need to be taken in by people with motives that are less than stellar (e.g. people wanting sexual playthings and/or slave labor at their ready).

What they do need is a growing number of people who are willing to go out to talk to them--and truly listen to what they have to say!

They also need things like food cards for places like McDonald's, phone cards (that will work with pay phones, as they rarely if ever have cell phones), personal care items (e.g. toothbrushes, toothpaste, deodorant, sanitary napkins, shampoo, combs, brushes, nail clippers, etc.), clothing (outer wear, underwear, shoes, socks, etc.), knapsacks, wallets, notebooks, pens.

They need social interaction without strings (e.g. must go to a certain church on a regular basis; must come to live in a certain home or shelter whether ready to or not) such as cook-outs, trips to pizza parlors, holiday celebration gatherings, etc.

For those young people who are tired of living out in the elements, we need families who will take them in and treat them like visiting cousins. One church in particular has been organizing something like this with a lot of success.

As soon as we have the funding for it, one of our dreams is to create places like camps and ranches where our young people can live safely and with respect (We, obviously, have zero tolerance for the boot-camp kind of experience, even though we also have some rules such as ones concerning fighting and substance abuse) while taking whatever amount of time they need to get back into the mainstream.

Obviously, IYN is unable to pursue this kind of project at this time, but the other kinds of things mentioned above ARE things that we can do now.

Russell has invested both time and money into our kids for many years, but there is only one of him.

A couple of the most wonderful birthday presents that you could give to him at this time is to increase the number of those who are active in helping our kids and to, if you're able, help him to get back into a situation where he can, once more, direct the happenings of IYN and doing what he was planning on doing right before this situation happened: handpicking reliable and caring people to share various responsibilities that he was once doing on his own, because he realizes that he can't do it all--and that he also must be prepared for the unexpected such as what has happened to him now.

Please keep Russell in your prayers, love, and positive thoughts--and, if you have any information on him, please contact me!

Saturday, May 14, 2011

About Russell On His 70th Birthday


This is NOT how I had been planning on celebrating Russell's birthday.  Hopefully, I'll soon be able to celebrate this very special milestone in his life (turning 70) the way I had planned to--with him online again.

If you live in the San Diego area and know something about Russell's whereabouts these days, please send me a message on Facebook.  Here is a link to my profile page.

Let me explain.  Russell was having some personal and health issues (as in being given some medicine that seemed to be having bad side-effects).

All at once, I began to hear the news that he had been taken somewhere else but nobody seemed to be at liberty to tell me just where.

I'm not going to go into a lot of details here, as I only have some limited information that Russell told me about such as getting the same medication that he had been taking for years through another (supposedly legitimate) source.  He had also been prescribed some inappropriate medication (I believe, having to do with his blood-pressure) by the same place.  He began to hear horror stories by other area seniors and got suspicious.

Anyway, I'm not going to say anymore here at this point, as having--and using--a small amount of information in a factual way can prove to do more harm than good.

There are people out there who have more experience and knowledge than I do, and, hopefully, at least some of the people reading this would fall under this category.

Please help if you know how!!!  To anyone reading this, please keep Russell in your prayers!!!

Until he's able to get online once more (or is able to get in touch with somebody who can) and get things straightened out, the activities of IYN headquarters in San Diego have had to be put on hold.

However, any people who are part of various IYN chapters or those who want to get involved in our mission should keep on doing what you're doing or want to do.

In San Diego (and its surrounding area) alone, there are thousands of street youth, and they need to be helped!!!

First off, here's what they don't need:

1.  They don't need to be rounded up and taken to juvenile hall (or something similar) and told that they will not be released until they give their real names and how to contact their parents and/or other responsible people in their hometowns.  They have gone through a whole lot to get away from there, because they have reason to believe that what is back in their old lives is a bad environment.  There are very few cases of kids just leaving home for the lark of it.  They are generally leaving behind abusive situations, whether those situations are bullying at school that nobody seems to be able or willing to make stop or physical/verbal/emotional/sexual abuse going on right in their own homes.

2.  They don't need the kind of boot-camp atmosphere that, unfortunately, seems to have become so common these days.  Leave them right where they are before doing this kind of thing to them!

3.   They don't need to be taken in by people with motives that are less than stellar (e.g. people wanting sexual playthings and/or slave labor at their ready).

What they do need is a growing number of people who are willing to go out to talk to them--and truly listen to what they have to say!

They also need things like food cards for places like McDonald's, phone cards (that will work with pay phones, as they rarely if ever have cell phones), personal care items (e.g. toothbrushes, toothpaste, deodorant, sanitary napkins, shampoo, combs, brushes, nail clippers, etc.), clothing (outer wear, underwear, shoes, socks, etc.), knapsacks, wallets, notebooks, pens.

They need social interaction without strings (e.g. must go to a certain church on a regular basis; must come to live in a certain home or shelter whether ready to or not) such as cook-outs, trips to pizza parlors, holiday celebration gatherings, etc.

For those young people who are tired of living out in the elements, we need families who will take them in and treat them like visiting cousins.  One church in particular has been organizing something like this with a lot of success.

As soon as we have the funding for it, one of our dreams is to create places like camps and ranches where our young people can live safely and with respect (We, obviously, have zero tolerance for the boot-camp kind of experience, even though we also have some rules such as ones concerning fighting and substance abuse) while taking whatever amount of time they need to get back into the mainstream.

Obviously, IYN is unable to pursue this kind of project at this time, but the other kinds of things mentioned above ARE things that we can do now.

Russell has invested both time and money into our kids for many years, but there is only one of him.

A couple of the most wonderful birthday presents that you could give to him at this time is to increase the number of those who are active in helping our kids and to, if you're able, help him to get back into a situation where he can, once more, direct the happenings of IYN and doing what he was planning on doing right before this situation happened:  handpicking reliable and caring people to share various responsibilities that he was once doing on his own, because he realizes that he can't do it all--and that he also must be prepared for the unexpected such as what has happened to him now.

Please keep Russell in your prayers, love, and positive thoughts--and, if you have any information on him, please contact me!

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Happy Birthday, IYN!!!


Four years ago today,
Invisible Youth Network
was launched
with
Russell T. Hartsaw
as our founder and chairman.
At this time,
Russell is dealing with some health problems
and could use your prayers, love, and positive thoughts.
If you live in the San Diego area,
he can also use you.
For even more years than IYN has been around,
Russell has been volunteering his time and resources
to reach out to the street kids
who have come from many parts of the country
(choosing San Diego due to its relatively-favorable year round climate).
He has been successful in getting several others in the area to join him in this endeavor.
However, the several others who have helped so far
make up only a portion of the population of San Diego and San Diego County.
Because Russell took ill suddenly,
there hasn't been time to put someone in charge of donations
coming into the address given,
so, the best thing to do now is to take items from our  
to either places like The Storefront or Stand Up For Kids
or else directly to where the street kids hang out.
If you don't live in the San Diego area,
why not do this for street kids who are in your own area.
It's time to show these young people that there are people out there who care about them.
Remember that you need to approach them on their terms
without judgment
and
without believing that you know what's good for them
and taking them somewhere against their will.
Thanks, in advance, for all of the help that you can give.
I'll keep you up on Russell as I find out more.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

I Know THIS Much. . .

The operation of IYN is pretty much up in the air at this time.

Russell has been experiencing some health problems, and, as soon as he's able, he will, likely, be delegating assignments to people who can best handle them according to what his vision has been.

I believe that he'll still, to one degree or another, be very much involved, but, for now, he needs to take care of himself.

At this time, I'm trying to find out more and will be passing this along.  I live almost 3000 miles away, but I'm in the process of trying to contact people who live in his area and who have worked with us on the mission of IYN.

This is all that I have to report at this time, but I'll be returning soon.

Please keep Russell in your prayers, love, and positive thoughts, and don't forget our many kids who need extended hands instead of pointing fingers.

Friday, December 24, 2010

Sure & Unsure...

It is Christmas Eve 2010, and I'm now sure and unsure.





I'm not sure what the future is for Invisible Youth Network.  Russell wants to take things in another direction.  He told me that he will be revealing new plans in February (his estimate).

One thing that I am sure of is that there are several thousand  young people in San Diego alone who are homeless.

Another thing I know for sure is that children and teens are getting bullied in school while it seems as if the faculty and staff just kinda nod and wink.

I know that there is something wrong with this picture, and something needs to be done.

What direction we're going with this in our organization is still up in the air at this time, so all I can tell you is to stay tuned...

Saturday, November 20, 2010

'Tis The Season!

 Mini-Entry #1

Starting today (November 20, 2010) and going throughout January 15, 2011, I'll be adding to this blog-entry.  Will explain the choice of dates later.  Right now, however, I'm going out to run errands--which will include shopping for our kids.  Catch you later.  (Current time is 8:41 a.m., btw...)

Mini-Entry #2

It's a little after ten at night on the same day, and I had a wonderful shopping day.  Because of my lymphedema and the fact that I'm not to the stage where I can wear footwear yet, I rarely do a lot of walking around outside of in my own home, but I made the exception today in order to actively participate in the IYN project for Christmas of contributing items to go into gift bags that will be passed out in San Diego, California--a place where runaway kids migrate to from many parts of the country due to its relatively-favorable year 'round climate.

The first place I went to was the post office in Markleville (Note:  To those who don't already know, any town that isn't followed by the name of a state will be somewhere in my home state of Indiana.  Because this is read all over the world, I'll follow all other towns/cities with the name of a state, even if it's obvious to U.S. citizens that New York City is in New York and Chicago is in Illinois.).  I wish I had been thinking more clearly at the time, and I would have gotten the name of the nice person who waited on me there.

Anyway, I chose the Markleville post office because of it's closeness to the parking lot and it's extra-easy access for handicapped people.  The purpose of going there was to pick up three flat-rate, ready-to-seal boxes for priority mail.  One box would be used to send items, and the others would be used in the future for whatever...

From there, I went on to shop at the Dollar General Store in Pendleton.

Two very pleasant clerks helped me out there.

Dawn was the one whose line I went through when it was time to check out, and she was very helpful in honoring my request to put the items I'd gotten for IYN into one bag and to put items I'd bought for my personal use into another.

When I shop for the purpose of putting together a box to send to our headquarters (something I hadn't been able to do for a long time, even though I made regular donations through PayPal as well as doing my online shopping through GoodShop so that a percentage of what I paid would go to IYN), I usually get the box ready to mail except for one side.  As I shop, I will place the items inside of the box so that I can tell how close it is to getting full.  I like to fill the boxes to capacity without getting them so full that they won't close properly.

The other clerk, Melinda, not only directed me when it came to finding some items I needed in a store that had recently been rearranged  (Pardon the interruption, but I need to make a trip to the little girls room and, then, call my mom to tell her goodnight.)...

(Still busy with some other things. . .Will continue this story a.s.a.p.)...

It's now early on Sunday morning with several hours of sleep between where I left this off and now, so I will continue this story before starting another one.

As I was saying a little bit ago about Melinda, she not only showed me where some of the items I was looking for were now located after the store had been rearranged to accommodate Christmas shopping displays, but she was also nice enough to go out with me to my car (which, for those who don't know, is actually my mom's car, which I'm driving until mine gets repaired and fitted with a current license plate) and help me to put things inside.

From there, it was on to the post office.

By now, the Markleville post office was closed (closing at eleven on Saturdays), so I went to the one on Raible Avenue in Anderson.  There's a longer distance to walk before getting inside and to the service counter, but it keeps later hours and has very handicap-friendly access as well.

I was waited on by a very helpful clerk named Kim.

It had been awhile since I'd sent off a TLC package (or any kind of package using express or priority mail), so I got a very helpful refresher course from her.

For one thing, I'd been sending packages by express mail at previous times.  It got them to their continental USA destinations very quickly (generally overnight) and for a flat rate, but it cost a few dollars more (not quite four dollars more, as it turns out).  Priority mail gets things there almost as fast (generally, within two to three business days) and, in one of the special boxes which I've described, only costs $10.70 to send.

For those wanting to send TLC packages to IYN containing items from our wish list, this would be the way to go.  The size to which I'm referring is what's called the medium sized box, and it's around the size of a shirt box.  You'd be amazed at how much one of those boxes can hold without popping open!

Anyway, I have more to tell, but I will save that for another entry...

Mini-Entry #3

It's now Sunday morning at a little after eight-thirty (11/21/10), and I'm here to write a little more.  One thing I've decided to do is to make this entry also serve as a kind of ongoing Christmas newsletter, so I'll be connecting here to a journal with the unusual name of:
Begun On Birch Bayh's 81st. Birthday
A journal begun on Thursday, January 22, 2009

Below is how it got it's name (the introduction that appears at the location of the blog):

Welcome to my main blog (that is, the one I'm using as a kind of journal or diary about anything and everything) here at WDC!!!

How did it get it's title?

The answer is that I started it on the 81st Birthday of former U.S. Senator from Indiana, Birch Evans Bayh, so I thought that it would be a pretty catchy title.

Since its first entry on January 22, 2009, it has been written in "once in awhile" but, as of now (meaning March 7, 2010), it should be written in on a much more regular basis, so please keep checking back. . .



In order to keep this blog-entry from becoming too long with too many things, I'm going to be delegating my information to various other locations and try to keep this entry area as directly related to IYN activities as possible through the time I write my last part of it on January 15, 2011.

Continue to come back here, as I haven't finished building the infrastructure of this blog-entry--and won't have it finished until sometime on January 15.

That's all for now.  Catch ya later!. . .

Mini-Entry #4

Here I am back in spite of modem trouble and other glitches--including being blocked from logging onto Blogger/Blogspot.  Wasn't for anything personal.  Just a site glitch of some sort.  This I know because the problem was a widespread one instead of being one I was experiencing alone.

Anyway, I'm glad that I'm here finally. . .

A whole lot is happening with IYN and can best be found out by visiting our website.  You can find two links to that in the right-hand margin of this blog.

I'm quite a bookworm, so, when I buy books these days, I try to shop using GoodShop.  Not only that, but I encourage others to do the same.

I'm hoping to get back to Epinions again and start writing there more.  Ditto re: Writing.com.  Some of the things I'll be writing there are book reviews, and I'll definitely be encouraging those reading them to use the GoodShop portal at least part of the time.

That's all for now...

P.S.  I think it's about time to start decking the halls a little...

Mini-Entry #5

It's Christmas Eve, and there has been a change in plans.  This will be the last addition to this blog-entry.  I'm now going to be starting a new one...


glitter-graphics.com
Okay!  Laters. . .

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

What's Wrong With This Picture?

Actually, everything's right with the picture, 
but something kinda screwed-up 
about the situation that inspired it...

Note:  
This picture and other great things can be found by going here:  
Click Me!


Tuesday, November 16, 2010

From One Bad Situation To Another. . .What Comes Next!?!

Smell the coffee! 

It's seldom about running off because you're angry about having a 9 p.m. school night curfew. 

It's more about having school day bullying experiences and/or even having a homelife that goes FAR beyond the term "dysfunctional." 

Even if it's about neither of those, there is, more times than not, a legitimate reason to want to get into a different environment. 

Have these kids jumped from the frying pan into the fire or from the fire into the frying pan? 

Either way, they need something better--MUCH better!

Monday, November 15, 2010

Chapters 'n' Such...

I had a nice, long sleep and didn't get online until this afternoon.  When I checked my e-mail, I found the following message from Russell waiting to be read.  This message is about starting a chapter representing the mission of Invisible Youth Network, but it contains links to other important information as well.  I would encourage you to check it out--as well as encouraging you to share it with other people by using the following link:


That way, you can share it on social sites such as Facebook, Tweet it, and share it in e-mails.  You can even share the link in snail mail messages and on flyers.

Having said all of this, here's the message:

Have you ever thought of running your own nonprofit organization? This is a great opportunity to do so. The Invisible Youth Network is chartering individuals and or organizations who are interested in reaching-out and helping homeless youth within their communities.

A charter is the grant of authority or rights, stating that the granter formally recognizes the prerogative of the recipient to exercise the rights specified, for example starting a chapter, office or division of the Invisible Youth Network in specified area.

This is an excellent opportunity to establish yourself within your community and make a name for yourself and your endeavors.

As a charter organization of the Invisible Youth Network you are covered by our paperwork, there are no further legal obligations on your part.

You have our support and help every step of the way.

Please see:

Chapter Application
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/ChapterApplication.aspx

Getting Started
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/GettngStarted.aspx

For an overview of the Invisible Youth Network please visit our website, it is important that you are knowledgeable about the organization that you want to charter with.

IYN National & International Website
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/


Russell T. Hartsaw
Founder & Chairman
Invisible Youth  Network

Home/Office:

940 Park Boulevard, Suite #334
San Diego, California 92101

619-272-9040
invisibleyout@gmail.com


Invisible Youth Network National Website
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/default.aspx

Invisible Youth Network Video, 1 of 3
http://youtu.be/AVEUJr-o0KY

Club IYN
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/BecomeaMember.aspx

Donations - Help Us Help!
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/helpushelp.aspx

Executive Leadership Team
http://groups.google.com/group/executive-leadership-team

IYN Chapters
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/IYNChapters.aspx

If We all Give a Little
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gqG4pEzddGU

Our Wish List for The Homeless Kids
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/ourwishlist.aspx

Volunteer Opportunities
http://invisibleyouthnetwork1.community.officelive.com/VolunteerOpportunities.aspx



- Love your kids for who they are, not who you want them to be! -

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Homeless Awareness #1-- Stop HOBOphobia!

Please pray for those on the street and the continuing need for emergency shelter, all throughout the Portland area. If this winter is going to be as bad as some think it is, the current emergency shelters are going to be woefully inadequate-- especially on the East Side. Please pray for us as we try to set up a plan.
Steve Kimes
Facebook Status
11/4/10


I feel very blessed to have met Steve & Diane Kimes on Facebook.

They have a mission to the homeless/formerly homeless in the Portland, Oregon area.  Even though this is something they do in a specific area, their faith, wisdom, and personal experiences can be applied anywhere.

I was especially impressed with a Note that Steve posted on Facebook on November 3, 2010, so I asked his permission to copy and paste it into the body of this blog-entry so that it could be more easily shared.  Permission was granted, so here it is.

After reading it, please check out the links I've shared below Steve's Note that will give you further information about them and the people to whom they minister.


Homeless Awareness #1-- Stop HOBOphobia!

This month is Homeless Awareness Month!  Become more aware of the homeless just by reading this note! Pass it on to friends!
     
Countless times a day, homeless people are rejected, falsely accused, harassed, ticketed, and even beat up, all for the “crime” of not having a roof over their heads or of being dirty or of carrying all their possessions in a backpack.  The homeless are treated as the outcast of society, as those at the bottom of the economic ladder.  Yet the homeless are not the cause of the evils of our society. Nor are they necessarily the outcome of our evils.  The homeless are people—people who want to live and love and hope and work, just like you do.   Let us not continue to punish those who are lowly in our society, but help them.

Battle the clichés of the homeless
                The homeless are “us”, not “them”—Many of the homeless are good Christians or children of important citizens.  Many of our neighbors and friends have been homeless at one time or another.  Homelessness is not an evil, or even necessarily a tragedy—it is a stage of life that many of us have gone through.

                The homeless DO work—While most do not have jobs, they do work hard, some harder than people who have “regular jobs”.  It is not easy to get up at 6am to get to dumpsters before anyone else and climb in many of them in order to get recycled cans.  Other homeless volunteer at free hot meals and shelters.

               Not all homeless are alcoholics—In general, about one third of the homeless have alcohol or drug abuse problems.  Many more have mental health or social  difficulties.  Many have had tragedies that have overwhelmed them, such as a loss of a job or the suicide of a spouse or family member.

               Not all homeless are criminals or violent—Most homeless abhor the crime and violence done by the few homeless who do because it gets them accused.  The homeless have the same percentage of theft and violence as those who are housed.

Teach your children and the community not to hate the homeless.
                The majority of violent crimes against the homeless are done by middle class youth who feel that they have the right to violently fulfill the prejudices of their parents and community.  If our youth and community learn that the homeless are human—people like us—then such crimes will be reduced, even eliminated.

Meet and listen to homeless people
                Find out the times and locations of local free meals and sit at the table with the homeless.  Find out their real motivations and hopes and desires.  You may find that they do not differ that much from your own.  Be patient with a homeless person’s oddness—you seem just as odd to them.

Include the homeless in social events
                Invite the homeless to community and church functions.  However, because many of them do not believe that they would be welcome, certain assurances must be made:
                It is not necessary to be well-dressed for the function.
                It may be necessary to provide transportation to and from the event.
                An announcement may be necessary to make sure that everyone is accepting of the homeless.

Support benevolence organizations that assist the homeless
                Volunteer at a free meal, give to an organization that helps the homeless, give blankets and clothes to a shelter.  Call a local church to find out where you can help the homeless.  As you give and volunteer be a friend to those you are helping—seeing and meeting them— not a distant, nameless Benefactor.

Provide opportunities for the homeless
                Provide what the homeless REALLY need—opportunities to shower, socks, clean clothes, an address, a chance to work for money, a chance to do volunteer work for others.  Be a friend to the homeless and help them get the resources they need.





Sunday, October 24, 2010

You've Heard Of Scratch 'n' Smell. . .

. . .well, this is Shop 'n' Search, Plain 'n' Simple. . .


Shop 'til you drop (or even just a little) and give our youth help and hope by using this link:
GoodShop: http://www.goodshop.com/?charityid=invisible-youth-network

In more of a surfing mood instead of a shopping mood?  No problem!  Here you go...
GoodSearch: http://www.goodsearch.com/?charityid=invisible-youth-network

Another way you can help us out is to share the link to this blog-entry and/or copy the above links into your e-mails; share them at places such as Facebook; and/or place them on your own websites, blogs, etc. 

One more thing:  You can also create buttons and banners that are set to help IYN.   Find html codes for doing so at the GoodShop/GoodSearch site.
Thanks, in advance, for any help you can give us along these lines.  

People are always searching the web.  I know that other searches are needed in order to find out some research, but I hope you'll surf for us at least part of the time.

This is also the time of year for various kinds of holiday shopping as well as being the time of year (at least, in my neck of the woods) for thinking about chilly January days when it's so pleasant just to stay inside and curl up with a good book.  

If you're an avid reader like I am, books are a wonderful present to give to yourself--as well as making great presents for fellow avid readers on your Christmas/Hanukkah/Winter Solstice/Kawanza/Winter Birthdays/Etc. list(s).

You can shop at so many online stores using our GoodShop link.

Here's a little something that will go nicely with a good book.  

http://www.mrsmccartneysteas.com

While the site for buying this absolutely-delicious-and-reasonably-priced-silky-teabag-encased tea (with each two-cuppa teabag kept fresh in its own delightful packet until ready to be used) isn't included in GoodShop, a percentage of sales goes to The Linda McCartney Breast Cancer Centre of which more information can be found at the site.

Let me now suggest some very good books. . .

For people who might think that our young people are just spoiled brats who decided to ride their thumbs to San Diego, California from so many parts of the United States because they were bored, didn't like reasonable house rules (e.g. curfew, decibel limits on entertainment, no such animal as limited credit card use, no unisex sleepovers, etc.), thought they looked uncool in the dress code/uniform requirements set by their schools, or some equally-unreasonable reason, think again.

With very little, if any, exception, they chose the streets/outdoors in a place with a relatively-favorable year 'round climate and plenty of secluded places to hide from authorities so that they wouldn't end up in juvie or right back at the place where they had already given up so much of themselves in order to escape because they had good reason to believe that even this kind of life is better than what they chose to leave behind.

These two books (which share definite examples of why kids just might decide that they'd rather be homeless than stay in the status quo) by Jodee Blanco (Please Stop Laughing At Me and Please Stop Laughing At Us) can be found at AmazonJust go through the GoodShop portal as set up here and do a search for them.

Another book I've recently ordered from Amazon and am waiting to receive is The Woman I Was Born To Be by Susan Boyle.  In this book, this now-world-famous singer with the amazing voice and teddy bear angel personality shares what it's been like to be Susan Boyle for almost half-a-century.  Sadly, there are incidents of taunting and bullying included in those pages along with the lighter times in her life and the happily ever after part of her life that she's now living.

Could another happily ever after story be waiting to be brought to life among those street kids in San Diego and other communities?  Could a person being bullied day in and day out someday shine?  Is there somebody out there who can get into the heart of a bully and find out what kind of personal pain is causing him/her to take things out on others?

I believe that the answer has the potential to be a resounding yes--that there are, in fact, thousands upon millions of young people just waiting for their time to be lifted up to where they deserve to be--not necessarily onto a performance stage (though, perhaps, this will prove true for some) but just to a place where they're in a safe place receiving respect, dignity, and care for their most basic needs (and then some)!

I think that the following graphic says it very well when each individual who reads this asks the question:  "But what can I--just one person--do to change things?"



While you're there, you might want to look for books by Roger Dean Kiser.  He has written books that inspire, books that entertain, and books that tell it like it is regarding the past of so many boys like himself who ended up as wards of the state of Florida.   He has these books on his website as well (which will be shared with you shortly), but I'm hoping to get you to go through our portal to order them so that it will also help IYN along with bringing in money that Roger uses to keep his stories out there (many are there to read for free on his website) along with helping orphans in his neck of the woods.

You can also get Roger's latest book, The Destruction Of Youth at Lulu while using our link as a portal.  Let me warn you that, in this book, Roger has pulled out all of the stops.

Amazing Windy City resident, Stuart V. Goldberg wears many hats--and a couple of those hats are novelist and defense attorney.  He now has a page-turning character study out now called The One And Only (which he hopes to, someday, turn into a movie).  He also has a (more-than-semi-autobiographical) novel manuscript recently finished called The Snake Charmer that he hopes to turn into a movie and--shortly after that--into a book.  You can find The One And Only at Amazon.  Please use our portal should you decide to buy this book of many twists and turns about an extremely-wealthy man who has an often-unhealthy hunger and thirst for collecting the very best, one-of-a-kind treasures at any or all costs.

From time to time, I'm going to be recommending more books (and other items, too) for you to consider buying while using our portal, but I think that this is a good place to stop--after I share with you an uncanny story about the alphabet and our Founder and Chairman, Russell, along with Roger and Stuart.

In short, did you realize that I met these amazing men in alphabetical order over a time span stretching from early in 2001 into the summer of 2010!?!

I would first notice (as I observed in the first thing I wrote about this phenomenon) that I met them in the order of how their first names would appear in an alphabetical list.

Not long after that, I would notice that this was, also, true of their middle names.

As for their last names. . .alphabetical in reverse!

Again, pretty interesting, to say the least!

I'm leaving you with three blog-entries I've written about this.

Will be returning soon with a different kind of shopping information. . .





Tribute To A Snake Charmer



Monday, October 18, 2010

From Happy Campers To Jolly Ranchers

Here is the latest from Russell re: plans for Camp Edge.  Sounds like a plan to me, so I hope that you'll pitch in to help in any way that you can. . .

Living on The Edge
 
  The estimate is 4,000 + homeless youth walking the streets of San Diego County, California and living on the edge every day in every way, for example:
 
“According to the National Conference of State Legislatures Five thousand homeless youth die each year from assault.”
 
That is equivalent to five high schools of students each year.
 
For some time the Invisible Youth Network has been kicking around the idea of putting together a camp in North County for the homeless kids of San Diego County, California, in the form of the various camps that you may enroll your kids in during summer break from school, the exception Camp Edge would be open year around.
 
What we have decided in the meantime is to have a series of fund raisers to purchase a ranch with all of the amenities of a ranch, and run Camp Edge as a ranch.
 
We can use your help in the following areas of this project:
 
1. Donations, of course.
2. Help us come-up with fund raising ideas for this project.
3. Help us find a location for Camp Edge.
4. Help us plan-out how Camp Edge will be operated.
 

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Invitation Sent!!! 9/11/10

Below, find a copy of an invitation I've just sent to friends on my Care2 list who aren't yet members of the representative group for IYN there.  Just recently, Russell made a post at said group that conveyed the message that we're marching forward with our mission and are ISO people who are willing and serious about helping us to help our kids.


Scroll on down to read what I've written as an invitation to do so...

Our army is totally-volunteer,
and we don't rely on violent weapons
in our quest of winning a very important war.

Remember how--nine years ago today--so many people were MORE than willing to go onto foreign soil to fight against unspeakable acts of violence that had occurred earlier that morning in New York City, near Washington, D.C., and over some farmland in Pennsylvania?

Are we at least as willing to fight another kind of war right on our very own soil--this time, a war that doesn't involve the spilling of blood but, instead, the extending of hands so that over 1.5 million young people in our country alone might be able to get the help they need to get off the streets.

Not only that, but we also need to implement weapons of prevention so that our invisible youth will have a strong voice against things like abuse (physical, emotional, sexual) going on right in their own homes, bullying at school, and poverty that end up driving them to leave behind their homes and communities in the first place.

Our representative group at Care2 isn't a place for sharing recipes (and such will be removed if posted).  However, it might be a place to get inspired to make our recipes to sell at fundraising bake sales and/or directly feed homeless youth.

Please join us in order to become more and more inspired to take action and make this tragic problem history p.d.q.

Yours In The Quest--
Ainsley Jo Phillips
Advisor & Consultant
Invisible Youth Network


Saturday, July 3, 2010

In The Meantime. . .

 Note:  A Fillet Mignon Love Story will be available for viewing again after my project is finished.  For those who haven't read this earlier, it had to be removed due to having an important link to it not going where it should due to blog being temporarily set to private.

A lot has been going on that has distracted me from getting my project done.  Hopefully, it will be finished within a week's time--and the sooner the better.

In the meantime, I would like for you to start thinking about what you might be doing in August.

Also, please sign at least one of the following petitions to make Youth Outreach Day a recognized event taking place the second Saturday of every October. . .

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/enact-youth-outreach-day

http://homelessness.change.org/actions/view/enact_youth_outreach_day

http://petitions.tigweb.org/enactyouthoutreachday

Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I hope that you're having a great weekend!

Monday, May 31, 2010

Who Am I?

Ainsley Jo Phillips from Anderson, Indiana USA

I've been with IYN even before its beginning, having first met Russell on January 15, 2007 at a discussion site called Duno.  Therefore, I've watched it grow from a field of dreams to where it is today--and it's still getting better and better!!!

When I was in better health (though my health was starting to deteriorate even at that time so that doing this was a challenge), I could be seen on a regular basis at places like Dollar General and Family Dollar buying  various items to be put into flat-rate, shirt-box-size mailing boxes to be sent to Russell for distribution to at least some of the near-4000 young people who are living outside in San Diego.  When I went there, to the post office, and to other places as well, I would pass out information sheets about IYN.

Near the end of May 24, 2009, I was taken to ER and was admitted to a room very early on May 25.  Diagnosis was lymphedema with a three-bug MRSA infection going on.  I was there for a little over a week with follow-up care given (initially) at home and (later) at the clinic.

This is an incurable-but-manageable condition, and I've made a considerable amount of progress in managing it.  However--as I'm still in the stage where I'm only wearing bandages instead of shoes--I'm not going in and out of stores these days, though I hope to be before the year is over.

However, I still manage to stay active in IYN as best as I can.  One way is to make a regular (pre-programmed) monthly donation.  I also still share information with people both online and in real life.  This is done in a number of ways with two of those being my chapter website and my IYN-themed blog.  Their names are listed below as clickable links...


Sugar Fork Creek Chapter of Madison County

My Helping Hand Journal

I hope that my words here will get across that there's something that nearly everybody can do when it comes to helping with our mission, so I'd like to encourage anybody who happens to read this message to check out our various websites and other examples of online presence and think of one or more ways that you might like to participate in our mission.  A countless number of young people in many parts of the third rock from the sun are counting on you!!!

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Message From Tj Harris. . .

Tj is part of IYN's Online Management Team.  On top of that,  he's also our Advisor & Cousultant.  He leads a busy life even beyond IYN activities but still manages to do an excellent job of making sure that things are running smoothly along with getting the word out about us.

He has written something at Care2 about how to do searches and make purchases using igive, and I have copied what he wrote into my notebook.

The advertisement for the book you see with it in my notebook has nothing to do with his announcement except for the fact that it's a book that Russell recommends to be read.  If you buy this particular book by clicking on the button, it will also personally help me out.  However, I'd like to see you do at least some of your shopping and searching using the igive/isearch links and banner that goes with this entry.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

I'm Passing On Message I Received From Russell. . .

This is the new IYN advertisement that I have been posting in several San Diego, California classifieds, we have received several responses of people planning to attend.
 
I just renewed all of these ads today.
 
This upcoming meeting should go well and give IYN a solid infrastructure in San Diego.
 
The advertisements will continue and the orientation meetings will continue every month.
 
In the very near future I will be targeting high schools and colleges.
 
Just to keep you updated from my end.
 
Russell
 
There are an estimated 1.5 homeless children walking the streets of American cities alone, of this 1.5 million there is an estimated 4,000 on any given day walking the streets of San Diego, California where IYN headquarters is located.

The average age of these kids has been determined to be between the ages of nine and fifteen. Each of these kids have their own story of why they are homeless among those stories are throwaway children by parents who could no longer afford them, mental, physical and sexual abuse at home or school.

The kids that are able to survive street life have their own way of surviving chief among them is selling their bodies to survive both female and male, theft and everything thrown in between. Many of these kids do not have a clean set of clothes, no personal hygiene items, no way to shower and go without food for days.

They sleep with the elements, rain, snow, cold, hot, four legged predators and needless to say two legged predators as well. How am I sure of this at the age of nine when my parents deserted me I was one of these kids.

One thing that you can count on with these kids they spend a great deal of time being afraid, scared, lonely and crying.

How can we not be there for these kids in every possible way?

If you are a San Diego, California resident.

The Invisible Youth Network does a monthly orientation for all new volunteer applications where your questions will be answered and you will have a wide choice of available volunteer opportunities.

The orientation for May 2010 is scheduled for Friday, May 14, 2010 between the hours of 5:00 - 7:00 PM on the outside dining area of Beach City Market which is located on the street level facing First Avenue at Horton Plaza in downtown San Diego, California this will include three hours of validated parking in the Horton Plaza Garage.

If you would like to attend this orientation please confirm by return e-mail.

High School Students and College Students are encouraged to participate.

For an overview of the Invisible Youth Network please visit our website at:

Invisible Youth Network Website
http://www.orgsites.com/ca/iyn/

Please help us make a difference in these kids lives!

--
Russell T. Hartsaw

Founder & Chairman
Invisible Youth Network

National Website:
http://invisibleyouthnetwork.net/default.aspx  

San Diego, California Headquarters Website:
http://www.orgsites.com/ca/iyn  

Youth Resource Center
http://www.orgsites.com/ca/invisibleyouth/index.html

Friday, April 30, 2010

514

May 14 is Russell's "39th" birthday--so let's think of IYN-related ways to celebrate.

I'm going to give you several ideas using the number "514" as the theme.

If you have some kind of entertainment place such as a movie theater, night club, concert hall, etc. you could charge $5.14 admission on May 14 and donate it to IYN.

If you have a pizza place, you could have a "Buy a large pizza for regular price, and get a second one for $5.14!" offer on that day.  Of course, the $5.14 from each special offer would be donated to IYN.

If you do runs and/or other forms of thons (e.g. walk-a-thon, rock-a-thon, dance-a-thon), you could have several people pledge $5.14 to be collected by you if you finish your goal.

How fast might you get various business in your community to donate gift certificates to their businesses?  These would go into grab bags which could be bought by people for $5.14

This handful of ideas can be adjusted to go in various other directions.  Whatever you do, let's do something creative on Friday, May 14, 2010 that has a 514 theme to it and will raise funds for IYN.  If you just so happen to have an address that has 514 in it, you might even consider having a get-together to do something such as knit caps for street youth to wear.

Please share this information with others. . .

An added challenge:

If you're reading this, please do what you can to try to get at least 514 more signatures on each of these petitions by or before May 14, 2010.  The number to the right of each link shows the number of signatures at the time that I first issued this challenge:

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/enact-youth-outreach-day    (160)

http://homelessness.change.org/actions/view/enact_youth_outreach_day     (91)

http://petitions.tigweb.org/enactyouthoutreachday     (14)

Thursday, April 8, 2010

This Is NOT The Time For Procrastination!!!

Sometimes, I think that the word, procrastination, was coined with me in mind.

However, I DO have an excuse for procrastinating:  I have so many things going on that they all have to take a number and wait.  This means that some things get done promptly, while other things get done not quite so promptly--or not promptly at all.  When certain things get done later than sooner, I'm seen by others (and even myself) as procrastinating.


What I'm talking about in this blog-entry is one of those things where there should be no procrastination if at all possible and, if not, as little as possible.


I want to tell you about what it's like living in my skin at this particular moment.  It's the skin of a person living with lymphedema--and during one of those not-so-good times that I'm dealing with surface wounds from blistering.  In order for these wounds to close before they become deep and infected, I'm having to spend more time in bed than on the computer at this time.


However, I believe that this is something that must be shared here before I can even think of getting back into bed.

In other words I mustn't procrastinate when it comes to sharing this very important message!!!


As I've just said, I know what it's like to live in the skin of somebody who deals with that chronic condition known as lymphedema--or, at least, I know what it's like for me.  However, I don't know what it's like to live in the skin of a child-abuser.  However, there seems to be plenty of people who have or do live in these skins.  I'm also blessed to have never lived within the skin of an abused child--except for on three occasions that I can think of, and none of the abuse came from family members.


Here are those three times:


(1) Hit hard on the top of the head by one teacher when I was four years old.
(2) Hit hard on the top of the head by another teacher when I was nine or ten years old.
(3) Forced (by two teachers) to participate in that dreadful game known as Red Rover.


A little later down the page, I'm going to share a video--and let me warn you that most of the pictures are pretty graphic.  They would make my three personal cases of child-abuse look pretty petty in comparison.


However, let me state here that my three cases of child-abuse were neither petty nor trivial.


No child should think "I was only tasered by a cop when I was throwing a tantrum, but it could have been worse, so I have no right to complain."


No child-abuse should be trivialized.  No child should be told to suck it up.


Some people think that the solution to stop child-abuse is stiffer prison sentences.  There are even some of the "some people" who would like to see the death penalty (which I personally oppose 100% of the time) be a possibility.


While I think that there are people who have gone so far downhill that they need to be restrained in order to keep the rest of society safe, I don't really think in terms of punishment for the sake of punishment--that is, to separate the "good" people from the "bad" people.  I'm more interested in making bad behavior stop than I am in the punishment mindset.


Although there will, likely, always be a need to keep some people separated from mainstream society, I think our prisons are far too full of people who have been sent there when problems would have better been solved by resources that didn't involve incarceration.


First, however, we have got to encourage people to take advantage of those resources when they need to.


Here is a favorite resource of mine:  Parents Anonymous


Parents who join a local group of this organization get the kind of help they need when it comes to coping with parenthood.

Sounds like a great deal--so, why aren't more child-abusers showing up to take advantage of this?

Simple!

They aren't ready to see themselves as failures when it comes to parenting--and they shouldn't have to!

If they were to go to Parents Anonymous meetings, they wouldn't find a bunch of failures there.  Nobody in that organization is interested in finger-pointing, and they don't see these parents as failures or "bad" people.

Most parents don't want to be "bad" people or failures.  None of us (parents or not) want to be bad people or failures.

The parents who don't take advantage of organizations like Parents Anonymous when they either feel as if they're about to lose it or else already have are the ones who don't want to have to face the facts that they are bad and/or failures (their own perception of themselves helped along by our judgmental society), so they think, I'll do better next time.  However, they end up doing worse, and, now, they're really ashamed.

Instead, they need to think:  I'm having these feelings, but that doesn't make me a bad person or a failure.  However, I need to get help in coping before I do something to my kids that I'll really be sorry for.

If people would just understand that good people can do bad things, if they don't have the resources to help them through bad patches, they would be more willing to get professional help, and everybody would end up better for it.

April is Child-Abuse Awareness Month.  However, we should be aware of this issue and doing what we can to make it stop 24/7 and 365.

If you're having trouble coping, please don't be hesitant to get help.

If you notice that a friend or family member is having trouble coping, do what you can to lighten their load, and show them this page.


When encouraging another person to seek help, talk to them as an equal instead of placing yourself high above them and looking down on them.


You might not have "been there" yourself, but imagine what it would be like to be so overwhelmed that you're ready to take it out on anything that's handy from the cat to the crying baby.  If you were to find yourself feeling that way, how would you feel?  Likely, that's how the person who's actually feeling that way is feeling.


If we were quicker to extend hands than to point fingers, I believe a lot of child-abuse would never ever get around to happening--and, when it comes to child-abuse, that's an act we should procrastinate on indefinitely!